AUM!!
My Ex boss and my friend had posted this question on his FB .... Subir ,with you permission
" Should relationships be kept on life support when one to know that Respect (Brain) is dead or should one let it die with dignity....?"
And this is my comment to it
When there is no respect in relationships, what is the point of "life support?" There is a famous saying "You realise the value of eyesight when you go blind." MY question is is what is the point in valuing something after it is lost when you cant value it while it is with you? When you live on life support you forget to live YOUR LIFE, YOUR VALUES, YOUR INDIVIDUALITY. you live for someone else. And when that happens, the relationship dies very sorely and very aggressively. Why wait for that stage when you can let it go with dignity?
That is one thought that needs a lot of thinking ...... i guess
Well my take for anything in life, be it relationships, work, play, anything -- is that at the end of the day you have to be happy. we often make decisions which makes others happy and in the process make us unhappy. And, we are scared to change that norm because we are under the notion that it will hurt other people. But, from how I look at things, it really is not that way. We have to first take it out of our heads that another person cannot live without us. Its wrong. Everyone is capable of living as long as his/her heart beats. Practically, its got absolutely nothing to do with another persons existence. Emotionally, we like to believe that its different. One life, we HAVE to live it for ourselves. Self Happiness is mandatory. If something is not working, chuck it and move on. Your partner will learn to move on too, sometimes sooner, sometimes later. Blaming yourself for somebody elses misery is a folly. When we know a relationship is dying, we shud just let it. Move on. That's the golden word!
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