Relationships

AUM!!

My Ex boss and my friend had posted this question on his FB .... Subir ,with you permission

" Should relationships be kept on life support when one to know that Respect (Brain) is dead or should one let it die with dignity....?"

And this is my comment to it

When there is no respect in relationships, what is the point of "life support?" There is a famous saying "You realise the value of eyesight when you go blind." MY question is is what is the point in valuing something after it is lost when you cant value it while it is with you? When you live on life support you forget to live YOUR LIFE, YOUR VALUES, YOUR INDIVIDUALITY. you live for someone else. And when that happens, the relationship dies very sorely and very aggressively. Why wait for that stage when you can let it go with dignity?

That is one thought that needs a lot of thinking ...... i guess

AUM!!

"If you want something very very badly, let it go free. If it comes back to you its yours, forever.If it does'nt it was never yours to begin with." (Jesse Liar)

Hmmmm... thought to ponder over?

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For ages now there has been one ongoing fight in India… the communal riots between Hindus and Muslims. There are political interventions to this too. It has gone to such extremes at times that there are Muslims who wouldn’t dare enter the Hindu dominated areas in the fright of getting killed and vice versa.

And in this age this news was a surprise to me and a wakeup call to all the Indians who divide themselves into Muslims, Hindus and Christians. This just goes to say that there are people who still believe that humanism, peace and love are GOD’s only religion. Please do read through this

The shiva shrine(900 year old) mentoned in the article is a must stop for pilgrims who visit the Amarnath temple. Quoting the article"After the migration of the hindu pandits from the village two muslim priests - Mohammed Abdullah and Ghula Hassan kept the doors of the Mamalka temple open and bells continued to toll."

"We not only took care of the temple but also held aartis everyday ", Ghulam Hassan said. They also made sure that besides ensuring the safety of the three feet long black shivaling, every devotee goes with prasad.

"We have faith in Shiva. We not only maintained the temple, undertook repairs but also ensured the temple remains completely functional despite threats from militants", Hassan said.

After reading this article, there was just one thought in my mind: "And people still keep fighting for the right of religion, the Ramsethu Bridge and theBabri Masjid."

One thing that I really don’t comprehend to … we react and create havoc to the destruction of temples and mosques why don’t we react to something like this and initiate a harmony between communities????

LOVE in its PURITY

AUM!!!

I always ponder over one thing...over and over again…..LOVE.

I am a movie buff. Over the years Cinema has produced numerous love stories in different languages which have been box office hits. However there is one movie (though a commercial one) that caught my attention…Veer Zaara (I just finished seeing it for the 6^th time). There might have been better movies made but my thoughts get s stuck on this particular one. It talks of love between a man and his woman…Love beyond lust, boundaries, physical needs, closeness and age.

There was one dialogue in the movie that attracted me… It talks about the difference between the love of a woman and his man, “Aurat apne dilon jaan se sab kuch lutaake apne mard ko mohabbat karti hain. Lekin mard mein aisi mohabbat karne ki taakat hi nahin hain.”

And I keep pondering over this. I have seen a lot of married couple ( I am married too ;-))I have been a witness to many relationships. But all the while I have noticed the difference, if not evidently, subtly.

Is it really true that a man cannot love like a woman? Is it because men do not have the strength to love like a woman or is it that GOD ALMIGHTY made us thus?

The same movie however talks of a man’s love too. The protagonist in the movie says, “Jab bhi aapko ek dost ki zaroorat pade, tho yeh zaroor yaad rakhna ki sarhad parek insaan hain jo khushi khushi apna jaan bhi de sakta hain.”

Does this kind of love happen only in movies? Or has the so called “MODERN DAY RUSH” taken the pure form away from us? Can a man and a woman still love each other with its entirety?

A few days back one of my friends ask me this, “Why is it that people are not happy after marriage, Nithya? Why is that at the most I see only one partner happy and the other dissatisfied? Well, I have no clue but these are questions that we all ought to think and realize what is happening with us.

Seeing the movie for the ‘Nth’ time, tears still flow down my eyes. Penning down my thoughts on this blog , I still have tears… this time not because of the movie but because of a question that runs in my mind. A Question to GOD, “GOD, you created us and through us you created LOVE . Does pure love and lovers beyond conditions really exist? If so please do give me one chance to meet them. I’d be the happiest. If they don’t, what is the purpose of of this world that you have created? WITHOUT LOVE???

Aum

An article that I read today inspired me to write this

What is life today about? When I look around us I see a lot of things. An advertisement quotes “Impatience is the new life”. And that is truly what I see. Faster cars, high end technology computerized offices…. These things supposedly enable us to be more efficient in what we do, help us save time and speed up our way of life. What does that mean? That we should have had enough and more time with us. Ironically that is not the case.

Unfortunately, today, we have learnt to make a living but not a “life”

Ever thought???? How much time do we spend with nature? How much time do we spend with our loved ones? We have time to watch Television, football matches and IPL. But we don’t have time to take our family out for dinner…. Spend time with our sweetheart on the beach watching a sunset.

A wife sometimes craves to hear the “three’ most beautiful words from her husband but he does not have time for that. A husband tired from his hectic schedule comes back wishing lay down on his wife’s lap. But she is busy in her own world of worries.

There are people who live by discipline. People who are perfectionists in everything they do. But these are the same people who have forgotten to do the most perfect thing that have been imbibed in us naturally… to LOVE.

I hear a lot about extra marital affairs and one night stands. Why is it that people need to go outside to unfold their passion? Why is it that they need a 3^rd person to show their love? Is it because the partner is not worth loving? Is it because they don’t get the love they deserve? Why is it that there are a lot more fights between husbands and wives and a lot less love?

These are just random thoughts. But there is one thing I feel and I need to express it here.

Today the person who loves us is just next to us. We believe that we have all the time in the world to express our love for that person. Tomorrow she/he might not be there. We shouldn’t regret at the time. We should never look back to say “Only if I could have loved her/him more, only if I had given her/him more of my time’. Tomorrow NEVER comes. Express your love-TODAY. Give all you can to your loved ones. To say “I LOVE YOU” is not a thing to be ashamed of. But when you say it, say it with  your heart, say it with your soul.

LIVE TODAY and LOVE TODAY
Cos “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away” (Anonymous)

Dance

"When we give ourselves over completely to the spirit of dance, it becomes a prayer" It is like being touched by the divine. When i surrender to dance there is no one but GOD and myself. It is the ultimate way to connect with THE SUPREME

Who is ME?

"Just when I think I know who 
I am,I meet another part of me" 

Which is why it took so long to write something about me.. Many have tried it. Most ending in futility, some famous and some frustrated. 
But we still try. Cos we cannot be otherwise. So here I am trying too. Cos I cannot be otherwise!!!

A person who believes that anything you do is right if it does not hit your conscience later. 

Religious and a Spiritualist. I believe in my Shiva and I believe in praying. Not praying to escape trouble Nor to be comfortable with your emotions. But to do the will of god in every situation... Cos I Believe nothing else is worth praying for.

A nature lover. Might not have traveled much but I love the nature and I hate it when people artificialize or destroy it. Always believed that the greenery around us is in a way a gods gift to mankind to over come his sorrows and loneliness
. 
An avid reader. Which is where I get the inspiration to write the way I did ;-). Used to read a lot of fictions. Off late I have read a lot of Paulo Coelho and other alike
philosophies. Read a lot books on religion and spirituality.. My favourite one being 
Shiva: the wild god of Power and Ecstasy by Wolf-Dieter Storl and God Loves fun by my Guruji (Sri Sri Ravishnakar)

Dance and music is my passion and without which I cannot survive.

A very emotional person who believes in the value of relationships.

A very temperamental person. I get angered and irritated very easily and it can be the smallest of things

A person who would go to any extend to help my friends cos they are a very critical part of my life

I always believe in helping the needy and will do anything to my extent to see them happy. Cos if we can make one needy smile then I think we have made their world for them.

A trustworthy person. People tend to confide in me the very first time cos they think they can trust me.